Science Says 'Love At First Sight' Will Lead You Astray [EXPERT ...

Do you believe in love at first sight?

A study tells us why your internal attraction meter is not a reliable gauge for love.

Think you know why you are attracted to a new person? In your dating experiences, have you found yourself making online dating choices based on the pictures or the profile? Did you agree to a second date because of share values and interests, relationship goals and love of sushi? Or was it that perfect white smile that made your heart sing?

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Thanks to an area in your brain, a particular region has been linked to your romantic choices. In a new study, it was found that this area makes quick decisions whether a new person is the right one or not within seconds. Apparently, this "instant attraction" mechanism leads daters to choose by their internal physical ideal of who is attractive to pursue.

Working with singles as a relationship coach, I understand how easy it is to allow a certain physical type to be the determining factor in dating, love and commitment. Unfortunately, reliance on this 15-second glance strategy leads to many unfulfilling relationships. The fear that one will have to settle for less than their ideal physical type if looks are not at the top of the "must have" list, is not the best approach to attracting the right relationship.

Take a look at some of the arguments that instant attractors raise:

1. I'll know the right one when I see him/her. If you have not worked through past relationship patterns, you will definitely not know. What will happen is a repeat of what you have already experienced and the inevitable break-up. It is your mindsets about love, relationships and how you expect to be treated which are the real directors in your choices. The attraction will be to those who put your pattern into motion.?

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2. I am only attracted to a certain type. If you are very closed off about dating those who do not match your physical ideal of the right one, you will tend to be drawn to superficial relationships. Many people can get fixed on dating those who are a certain height and build for example, only to completely overlook the one who would truly make their heart happy. Finding one another appealing is a definite part of the overall package, but to place looks front and center does not lead one to relationship fulfillment.

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